Sustaining happy relationship..... ....

... after another successful workshop, I have received a rather stressful phone call from one of my 'students' and the issues she was having were regarding her relationship.

She is not alone, there are many people who are stressed out there thinking their relationship are not as they used to be. The vast majority of people are trying to see what is it exactly do they do wrong or... some become even overprotective of their partner and are trying to find ways to make their partner's life happier (all of course against the will of the other, hardly ever suspecting, half!).

....It is amazing how many people treat their relationship as the only source of happiness and! if the other half/partner suddenly feels 'withdrawn' due to the workload increase or other interests taking their time then most of the people get depressed and upset they are not getting enough attention.... they are not happy anymore?!

Did you ever thought of treating your relationship as a mutual 'treasure chest'? Just imagine your 'happy relationship as a 'treasure chest'. So you come back here whenever you would like to feel happy and take some 'treasure' out of the 'treasure chest'.... then you would like to sustain happiness and you, again, come back to the 'treasure chest' for some more 'treasure' (happiness).... Getting the picture? So what do you do when the 'treasure chest' runs out of 'treasure'? You break up your relationship or you nag your partner, or you start fault-finding in your partner? Or do you simply become indifferent?
What were you planning to do on refilling your 'treasure chest'? You do know if you open a packet of sweets and you eat all of them without putting some sweets back, yes...... correct! - you run out of sweets!

... well same applies here! There is nothing wrong with your partner compare to the first time you have met him or her! The person is still the same, however either yourself or both of you simply forgot to refill your 'treasure chest'. And it is so easy to re-fill it and it is extremely satisfactory at the same time,.. ...... you simply start doing what makes you happy outside of your 'mini world' of you and your partner. If those are just simple walks in the parks or watching a movie with friends - do it! That way you receive  your 'happiness' from other sources and! you bring some back home! As you feel happier and more satisfied with your life you have no more urge of using your partner as the only source of happiness... and you know what?! your partner will be drawn back to you at no time as you are no longer the 'unhappy' person feeling you are not getting enough attention but you are new 'improved' you with a new re-energised source of happiness.

By realising it you and your partner can start enjoying fuller and happier life and start planning some joint activities together so you share your happiness together!

With lots of love,

Olya xxxxxx

'Discord between a couple is unpardonable, no matter what may be the cause. It is unpardonable because it may destroy the couple's chances of success, even though they may have every attribute necessary for success'